Emotional Wellbeing: How to Validate Your Emotions

We often talk about how the only person who we should focus on validating us is 
ourselves, but rarely explain how to actually do that. Validating your own emotions is 
coming to a place of accepting them. Where you notice what your emotions are and you 
never judge yourself for having them. This self-validation can be really healing for you 
emotional wellbeing.


Be Mindful

In order to validate your emotions, you first need to understand what they are, why you 
feel that way, and rally just accept them. You will see mindfulness mentioned a lot when 
it comes to emotional wellbeing because of how valuable it is for your mindset and how 
you process your emotions.

When you are mindful, you are present in yourself and in your thoughts and feelings. 
You aren’t judging how you feel, but you are accepting of it, and that alone is validating 
your own emotions. It can be an important part of changing how you view yourself and 
what emotions you experience during different moments of your life.


Never Judge How You Feel

Just like when you validate someone else, you don’t want to place judgment on your 
own emotions. This can be hard sometimes when you feel like they are being intrusive 
on your mind or your life, but it is really important to find a place of acceptance without 
criticism. 

Any time you experience an emotion or feeling that makes you uncomfortable or that 
you don’t want, give yourself a couple minutes to just think about it. Ask yourself why 
you feel that way, what triggered that emotion, if you have felt that way before, and what 
you did previously to cope with this emotion.

By doing this exercise, you learn how to acknowledge your emotions for what they are 
and validate them, instead of placing judgment.


Encourage Yourself

You don’t need validate or encouragement from others! You are the best person to 
encourage and motivate yourself. You can be your own best friend, your cheerleader, 
the one who gives you unconditional love and support. Continue encouraging yourself 
and showing yourself how much you can accomplish.

Think of all your challenging experiences before now, and how you overcame them. Get 
honest with yourself about how strong and powerful you are, and how much you can 
actually overcome in your life. This alone should prove that you deserve to encourage 
and support yourself every step of the way.


Accept Your Emotions 

Accepting your emotions or how you feel is not the same thing as wanting to continue 
feeling that way. It is simply you being in a state of acknowledgement that it’s how you 
feel right now, and the understanding that it’s temporary.

People often feel that acceptance is the same thing as forgiving and forgetting, but it’s 
not. It is closely tied with being mindful and understanding your emotions, so that you 
can come to a place of recognition and know that soon they will pass. 


Use Positive Self-Talk

Stop talking bad about yourself, even in your own thoughts. Your internal dialogue is 
running constantly all day and night, and you might notice that it is often negative when 
thinking about yourself. Whenever you have a moment to yourself, think about where 
your thoughts go. What is the dialogue in your had? What are you thinking about 
yourself? When you have those internal conversations with other people, what scenario 
are you seeing? What is that person saying about you? What are you saying about 
yourself? 

Try to shift these to more positive thoughts. One at a time, begin acknowledging when 
you talk badly abut yourself, and then shift it to say something positive about yourself. 
The more you do it, the easier it becomes.





