

How to Love Yourself Unconditionally

Become more empowered by loving yourself unconditionally and practicing self-love. 
That is what we’re talking about when we say to love yourself unconditionally.

It is such an empowering feeling when you don’t just accept yourself and your flaws, but 
you fully embrace everything about yourself. Take it one step further by fully loving 
yourself, inside and out, unconditionally. 

Here are 10 different ways you can begin to love yourself unconditionally, regardless of 
anyone else around you. The person who should love and appreciate and validate you 
the most is YOU.


Notice How You Speak to Yourself

How you speak to yourself, whether inside your head or out loud, makes all the 
difference. We often have internal dialogue that is more negative than we realize.

The next time you are inside your head, talking to yourself, or having in inner 
conversation about yourself, pay close attention to what you say and how you say it.

Are you criticizing yourself? Are you insulting yourself? Do you feel like you aren’t good 
enough? How often do you think and say nice things about yourself, compared to the 
not-so-nice things? 

The more you start paying attention to how you speak and think about yourself, the 
more you will notice these negative thought patterns so that you can start to correct 
them.


Quiet Your Inner Critic

In line with how you speak about yourself, consider your inner critic as well. This goes 
beyond just your internal dialogue, and encompasses larger thoughts you have about 
yourself and your own abilities. Your inner critic tells you what you and can’t do, it 
discourages you from making big leaps, creates more fear and worry inside your head. 

Your inner critic might seem logical base don life experience, but it is only base don fear 
and what others have told you about yourself. You are often more judgmental and 
critical of yourself than other people are, so if you have low confidence, it might be 
coming from within. 


A simple exercise is to challenge these thoughts, simply be reversing them. If you feel 
like you can’t do something, just tell yourself that you can. If you are afraid of someone, 
tell yourself you are not afraid. Just keep reversing these critical thoughts as often as 
you can.


Value and Validate Yourself

It is so easy to fall into the trap of expecting other people to validate you, but nobody 
should have to make you feel worthy and valuable but yourself. It is a wonderful feeling 
when people around you love you and show that they love and value you, but this 
should not be where your self-worth comes from.

True self-worth comes from within. It is how you feel about yourself, how worthy and 
valuable you feel, what you know to be true about yourself. Others around you, like 
friends and loved ones, can confirm that for you, but the only way to truly love yourself 
is to love yourself.


Take Good Care of Yourself

There are many reasons self-care is often recommended along with self love – which 
we will be getting too soon, don’t worry! But one of the main reasons self-care is so vital 
to your personal development and self-empowerment journey is that it gives you a 
reason to take care of yourself.

You probably spend most of your time thinking about other people. Taking care of your 
family, your kids, your spouse, your friends, your co-workers, your neighbors. It is 
amazing to be such a thoughtful person who is always looking out for everyone else, but 
what about you?

You need to take care of yourself and make yourself a priority. When you begin doing 
this, you will notice you start respecting and valuing yourself as well. Whether it is 
pampering, going to get your hair and nails done, going shopping, cooking yourself a 
healthy meal, exercising, whatever it is you can do for yourself. 

These acts of self-care are a wonderful way to prove to yourself that you love yourself 
unconditionally.








Celebrate Yourself

Be unapologetic with how much you love yourself! Celebrate yourself, and not just your 
wins and accomplishments. Celebrate YOU as often as you can. Celebrate who you 
are, c celebrating your strengths, celebrate your compassion, celebrate everything you 
love about yourself.

Take yourself out on dates, enjoy time you spend with yourself. This doesn’t mean to 
only be alone, but when you are, celebrate yourself!


Practice Self-Care

As we mentioned, self-care is so important when it comes to building a stronger 
relationship with yourself. This is how you show yourself that you love yourself 
unconditionally. Self-care is how you progress to an unconditional fondness of yourself, 
whether you are having a good or bad day. 

Self-care comes in many forms, such as:

*	Quiet activities like reading or writing
*	Journaling
*	Creative and artistic activities
*	Pampering yourself
*	Shopping
*	Organizing projects
*	Taking a day off
*	Going for a walk
*	Taking a new fitness class
*	Cooking yourself a nice meal
*	Having brunch with the girls
*	Spending a day with family or friends
*	Enjoying a lazy afternoon
*	Anything you want!

What self-care looks like to someone lese might not be what it looks like to you. Just do 
things for yourself as a way to practice more self-love and self-compassion.








Use Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are a wonderful way to start changing how you think and speak 
about yourself. It is an easy path toward loving yourself and truly believing what you 
say. 

When you repeat affirmations, it can feel strange and foreign in the beginning. You most 
likely won’t believe what you are saying about yourself, but that’s okay! You just need to 
work on changing your mindset.

What affirmations are doing is saturating your mind with these new thoughts. Over time, 
the more you use them, the more you start to actually believe what you are saying. 
Before too long, you don’t even need the affirmations anymore because you already 
have these thoughts about yourself.

Some examples of positive affirmations for self-love include:

I love myself unconditionally.
I am strong and capable.
I am worthy and valued.
I am beautiful.
I am desirable.
I am powerful.


Find Activities That Spark Joy

What are you doing when you are truly happy? When do you feel the most at peace? 
When do you notice you have a silly smile on your face? These are the moments to 
remember and reflect on what you were doing at the time. 

Were you talking to someone special?
Were you creating art?
Were you reading a good book?
Were you enjoying nature?
Were you cuddled up in a cozy blanket?
Were you watching your favorite movie?

It doesn’t’ matter what the activity is, as long as it makes you feel happy, loved, and 
secure. The more you can participate in activities that spark joy, the more you will love 
life, which makes it easier to love yourself.





Find Self-Acceptance

Sometimes, unconditional and unapologetic self-love is complicated and difficult to 
accomplish, especially if you have spent years disliking yourself and allowing your inner 
critic to take over. 

But what you can first do is find a place of self-acceptance. You don’t have to love every 
part of you, but you can at least accept it. Accept yourself for who you are, forgive your 
past mistakes, acknowledge who you are now, and who you want to be in the future.

It is a great way to be more mindful of the place you are in your life in this moment, but 
also accepting that you have the power to change yourself and your life if you want to.


Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Who You Are

Nobody has power over your life and how you feel about yourself except for you. You 
call the shots in your own life. If you have negative feelings about yourself, then look 
inward and try to figure out where they are coming from. IF they are triggered by other 
people, it is time to cut them off. You should never have people in your life who make 
you love yourself any less. 

Be who you are, unapologetically, unabashedly. You deserve to shine. You deserve to 
love yourself. You deserve to be exactly who you are and who you want to be.




